Good Sayings ABSORPTION

Children, we are told, absorbe the best things in literature.

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Every individual not only absorbes his culture, he passes it on with modifications. _Stuart Chase

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The ability to absorbe things that are beautiful is born along with one's birth. _T.S. Subramanian

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India has always absorbed all that is highest and noblest and true. _G.Francis.

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Good Sayings ABSENCE

Absence from whom we love is worse than death. _William Cowper

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Absence is to love that wind is to fire :  It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great. _Compte De Bussy

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Judicious absence is a weapon. _Charles Reade

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Absence extinguishes the small passions and increases great ones, as the wind will blow out a candle and blow in a fire. _La Rochefoucauld

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Failing to be there when a man wants her is a woman's greatest sin, except to be there when he doesn't want her. _Halen Rowland

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Absence makes the heart grow founder. _Thomas H. Bayly

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The absent are always in the wrong. _Phillippe Destouches

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GOOD SAYINGS... ABILITY ..

There is something that is much more scarce, something rather than ability.  It is the ability to recognize ability._ ROBERT HALF

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Do what you can, with what you have, where are you. _THEODERE ROOSEVELT

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Natural abilities are like natural plants that need pruning by study. _SIR FRANCIS BACON

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Natural ability without education has more often raised a man to glory and virtue than education without natural ability. _CICERO

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Native ability without education is like a tree without fruit. _ARISTIPPUS

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A man may be so much of everything that he is nothing of anything. _SAMUEL JOHNSON

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Since we cannot know all that is to be known of everything, we ought to know a little of everything. _PASCAL

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Men take only their needs into consideration - never their abilities. _NAPOLEON BONAPARTE

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For a clever child without means, the need may well be to help develop his abilities.

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It is no use having a big bank balances unless one is ABLE to draw on it. _Dr.T.N. KRISHNASWAMI

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Achievement is not always commensurate with ability. _PAUL E. CAMPBELL

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Many creatures have greater ability in one director or another. Arthur Osborne

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People change, as do their attitudes, ambitions and abilities.

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A distorted view of one's abilities can make it hard to cope with the real world. ALISON GARDNER

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The winds and waves are always on the side of the ablest navigators. _EDWARD GIBBON

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There is great ability in knowing how to conceal one's ability. LA ROCHEFOUCAULD

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Ability is poor man's wealth. _M. WREN

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Ability to concentrate is the prime virtue in any research establishment. _E.F. RUSSELL

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There is no interest without knowledge, and knowledge is acquired by those having ability to acquired it. _EDGAR SCHMIEEDELER

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Ability determines training, and training may give rise to interest. _EDGAR SCHMIEEDELER

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Ability is of little account without opportunity. _NAPOLEON BOANAPARTE

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Ability gives relief to the body as well as to the mind. _A.F. HARRISON

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There is increasing dissatisfaction with disease and disability.

What's on your mind?.. Sadguru

Questioner :  Why do human beings suffer more than the animals?

Sadhguru:  Animals suffer physically if things go wrong.  Human beings suffer because there is a discretionary intellect.  Human beings suffer much more than the other creatures because most of their suffering is mental and mental suffering is self-created.  S/he suffers more because s/he is a much better expert at creating suffering for himself or herself and for others.

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Of all the creatures on this planet, human beings create the maximum suffering for themselves and for all other creatures, isn't it?  This is because they have a discretionary mind.  They can choose to be lead the life anyway they want.  At any movement one can either make himself or herself joyful or miserable.

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Your mind is not a solid state, it is a fluid.  You can make it acquire any shape right now.  You can look at a tree and say "Oh! God is living there, wonderful", or you can look at the tree in terror and say "Maybe devils are hanging around there".  There is no end to the mind.  You can make just about anything with your mind _ you can make ecstasy out of it or misery out of it.  Most people have learnt how to make misery out of it because they are exercising this discretionary dimension of mind unconsciously.

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The source of human suffering is just that s/he has a choice.  So right now s/he is suffering your bondage, it's okay, but if you are suffering your freedom it is a tragedy, isn't it?  Right now, that's the tragedy that a human being has made himself to be.  But if you wish, this moment you can make your life heaven or hell.  The choice is yours.  

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There is a very beautiful story.  There was a yogi who was aged and nearing his death, so he went about telling everybody that he is going to heaven.  So all the other yogis just looked at him and they thought, "How does he know that he is going to heaven?"  As the yogi was very confidently telling everybody in the town, so all of them gathered one day and asked him, "How do you know you will go to the heaven?  You do not know what's on God's mind whether he wants to send you to heaven or hell".  The yogi replied "I don't care what's on God's mind, I know what's on my mind, I'm going to heaven and that's all".  In reality, that's all it is.....______ SADHGURU JAGGI VASUDEV, a prominent spiritual leader, is a visionary, humanitarian, an author, poet and internationally-renowned speaker.  He can be contacted at www.ishafoundation.org.

Don't despise accountability... Anupam Kher

There is a general notion that we become lesser human beings if we are accountable to someone.  Indeed, the very matrix of most people is etched in such a way to avoid accountability; as if accountability is to be despised at any cost.  All children want to grow up to being adults as fast as possible primarily because they want to be independent and stop listening to the dictates of others.  But is total independence from everyone independence from everyone a desirable state of existence?

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Before I answer this question, I would like to explain that I am not speaking from the point of view of orthodoxy, which is very prevalent in our society, viz. all of us must listen to our elders at any cost.  Such a belief comes loaded with its own negatives.  I have seen thousands of instances where supposedly well-meaning decisions of elders have wreaked havoc in the lives of their scions.  Wrong choices in careers, in professions and in later life - all forced upon by the elders - have made all too many people unhappy and I am not upholding this way of life for a moment.

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But the accountability I am referring to is in terms of a sense of spirituality and calmness which we all seek.  When we are children we all need the service of our parents as mentors; such a practice is unquestioned across all societies.  What happens when we grow up?  We erroneously believe total independence is the way forward in adulthood.  We would like to believe that we do not need any advice on matters personal as we have all the answers; in any case, we know best.  Yet we do not realise that on the professional front, we are continually seeking advice to advance our careers.  If you are a doctor or a lawyer or a CA, you are not only adhering to a system of internship and working under seniors for many years, but you are also joining your professional associations to keep abreast of advancements in your field.

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Even in the corporate sector, you are not only seeking - and  welcoming - gyan from your seniors, but you also attend in-house development programmes and also more specialised mid-career courses offered at major business schools the world over.  Then why the preference for independence in other matters?

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When I say be accountable, I mean that we become better human beings if we mentally feel accountable to our spouses, our children and others near and dear to us.  Rather than rest on our seniority, or in the case of some men, their belief in being seen as macho, and above any questioning by family members, let us constantly review our attitudes and our decisions from their perspective.  Let us have the humility to sit down with them and discuss if our beliefs are correct and incorrect.  Let us understand that we are accountable to everyone around us as our beliefs and attitudes impact them.

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And we should do it all the more; because we love them... The writer is a renowned film and theatre actor.....