Chemistry.,.,.,

I recently read that love is entirely a matter of entirely a matter of chemistry___ that must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste............. DAVID BISSONETTE

Little things makes happy wives.....PRIYA RAMACHANDRAN

Marriage is more than just an institution for most men. It is full time job which has to be worked at every single day and that's saying it in the most optimistic sense.

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May be one can't totally unravel the mystery, but you should know for a fact that it takes more for men than just conventional marital therapy like getting in touch with their feelings, talking about their feelings, feeling their wives' feelings, and the whole communication shindig. Most married men agree that it is the little things like bearing the wife's endless shopping trips, putting up with her gaggle of friends and relatives and of course, putting down the toilet seat that ensures the smooth running of the engine.

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The male half of happily married couples in the shobiz talk about what it takes to keep the marriage alive everyday. Singer Shaan who is known for his loving relationship with his wife feels that understanding the psyche of women helps a lot. "Men and women are made from completely different hardware. When men have a stressful day at work, they want to go home and retreat to their nest. May be we just want to sit in front of the television of or read the paper. Point is, they want to forget and not talk about it. Women, on the other hand, come home from a stressful day and want their husbands to notice. They want to talk. They want a hug. So even if that is what you don't want to do, talk. I've always followed this technique and it is worked wonders," he exclaims.

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Who said marriage is perfect asks Nikhil Chinappa who is married to his long-term girlfriend DJ Pearl. "It feels great being with someone who understands you. But we sure have our differences. For instance, I'm never going to share my records. They are still mine__ most fights are over my cleanliness habits or rather lack of it. When I don't pick up after myself, Pearl gets annoyed. Even I get irritated when she takes long to get ready. But we work around these little things and are very happy," he says.

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For badminton player Chetan Anand, having a wife who is also a badminton player was a great boon. "Jwala has a fiesty nature and people would gossip a lot that she was dominating. Her candid outbursts get her much attention but win her few friends. I'm the balancing force in her life just like she is in mine. Her freedom is important to her and I ensure she does what she wants. I never stop her from going to dinners or movies with friends. I give her own space," he says.

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The common belief that once you are married, romance is lost is not always true .,.,.,. feels Director Kabir Khan, who is married to television anchor Mini Mathur says, "Today we're the same Cupid-struck lovers we were. I keep her happy by accompanying her on her shopping trips and family visits. And she lets me go on my all-guy backpacking trips. We travel a lot together and travelling is one thing that makes you very clued in to each other's likes and dislikes...................