God has kept this urge of regeneration in human mind only to perpetuate his creation and not for enjoyment. Veerya is meant to be used only for procreation and not for self-indulgence. For married people Brahmacharya can be broken only when they feel the desire for progeny. If they realise this truth they will not become a slave to lust, nor lose their stock of vital energy. Sri Ramakrishna used to say that after the birth of one or two children, wife and husband should live like a brother and sister direction their minds towards spiritual enlightenment. In Sanatana Dharma marriage is considered to be a sacred act. Marriage is not meant for physical enjoyment but only for good progeny. A wife is considered to be a partner in life to practise dharma; she is called dharmapatni or sahadharmini. Children born out of prayer and self-control will certainly exhibit great virtues, but children born out of lust and over-indulgence will become weak and bereft of divine qualities. Swami Vivekananda had all praise for mother Sita for her wonderful qualities as a wife when he said, "Sita, purer than purity itself, all patience, all suffering without a murmur, she the ever-chaste and ever pure wife, she the ideal of the people, the ideal of the Gods, the great Sita, our national Goddess she must always remain."
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Sri Ramakrishna was married to Sri Sarada Devi only to demonstrated to married people that wonderful ideal of chastity in married life. Both were free from carnal pasions, led a life of self-control and realised the ultimate goal of life-- spiritual enlightenment.
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Therefore controlled sex life is essential for married people. Over-indulgence will only lead them to immature old age and early death.
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