Life in 3

Fear Of Results Stems From Fear Of Failure

VARMA's

Are out-of-the-box promotions and innovative marketing for a film as important as a good story?
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These days, they are more important than a good story - at least in the context of box office success.  You get to know a good story only after you get into the theatre, and a publicity campaign is intended to pull you into the theater.  You can afford to make a bad film - but you can't afford a bad publicity campaign.

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Expectations are relationship killers.

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Relationships are expectation raisers, so we get f***ed both ways.

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What kind of a woman would you want to marry? 

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One with a butt like JLo, a face like Sridevi, a mind like Ayn Rand, and who loves all my films including Aag.

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Behind that invincible wall of yours, is there vulnerability?

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Vulnerability comes from a fear of losing.  Fear of losing comes from your perception of values.  Perception of values come from a lack of understanding and lack of understanding comes from lack of decision-making.  And lack of decision-making comes from a fear of the result.  Fear of results comes from a desperation for success.  Desperation for success comes from fear of failure.  So as long as you don't value success, you won't fear failure and you will become invincible.

WARNING :  Those who don't understand the above analysis should read it multiple times and if they don't understand it even then, they can consider themselves morons.  The smarter lot should not even try to understand it and take it for granted that a smart guy like me would anyway say only smart things thereby proving that all you smart guys are actually even bigger morons....

Recharge and Regain Lost Youth

"I get upset by rash and rebellious teenagers.  Why can't they behave properly?"__ Harish, 52 Years...

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The "rash" teenage mind appears naturally rebellious to you, friend.  In face it isn't rebellious at all.  I would prefer to say that your mind has been tamed and tethered.  It's your mind that won't stray from its confines.  It's your mind that gets upset when someone does not conform to the behaviour patterns that you have succumbed to.  

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Truly the teenage mind is free from the bondage.  It hasn't yet yet surrendered to fate, to society, to lethargy.  It's still alive and kicking.  Its very nature is to experiment, and when it looks at something, it sees it as you would have seen it when you were a teen yourself - as something fresh and new.  Alas, your memories of your youth seem to have faded, and you might not recall those heady days anymore.  As we grow older, our minds get more and more brittle - unless we step in and consciously, deliberately make it flexible once more.

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Youth has exuberance but no experience.  Old age has experience but no exuberance.  If you can recharge your lost energy and enthusiasm you will enjoy the best of both worlds.  You will never again complain about rash teenagers because you will be a bit "rash" yourself, and be busy enjoying every minutes of it.

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The whole problem comes when we think that we have become too old.  When we lock ourselves with notions of "proper behaviour".  Get rid of the notion of "proper behaviour".

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 Become ageless - which means gain the ability to be any age you want to be.  Come on, it's not too difficult.  At 52 your mind must be urging you to do so many things.  Lose weight, do Yoga, become flexible, walk, run, get a fit body, whatever.  Just do what your mind is asking you to do.  Spend a minute each day remembering your teenage days.  These simple things will surely make you youthful once again.

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The worst thing a man in his fifties can do is to criticise youth for their behavior.  The only cure for that is to become young yourself.  Sure, other oldies will add your name in their list of complaints; but that's their problem isn't it?

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