Though most couples look happy during the first few years of marriage, monotony and boredom set in within no time. This need not be so. Marriage can be a life-long enjoyable experience. Both the partners should try and retain the freshness. Here are some tips to keep your marriage get going on the highway of happiness.
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Explore each other mentally... The more you talk to each other, the better you can understand each other. Make it a point to share your views on a regular basis and be open to new ideas.
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Be a good listener... One should be a good listener too. This is essential to let your spouse know that you respect his/her view.
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Live in the present... Past is gone and there is nothing to worry over it. Try to enjoy the present situation. Do not complain to your spouse that he/she has changed a lot since you met him/her.
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Spare time for each other... Schedule some time just for the two of you-a quiet lunch on a working day, a Saturday evening movie followed by dinner, or just a walk after dinner.
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Vacation... A vacation is always a mood-lifter. Plan at least one long vacation once a year when you can really enjoy. The kids will also love it. It is also a good idea to take some short breaks to re-charge yourself.
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Physical intimacy... Needless to say, physical intimacy is very important for a marriage's survival. Don't neglect this aspect. Physical intimacy may even include a hug, a soft touch or even a compassionate look.
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Caring and Sharing... Try to share housework between yourself. Take turns at making dinner, washing clothes, shopping together, supervising the kids, and so on. Household chores seem less boring when both the partners share them.
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Take time to encourage your interests... Reserve some time, even a few hours a week, when you can step back from your daily responsibilities and indulge in some work you really enjoy. Cultivate a new hobby or restart your old ones.
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Allow space for each other... Every individual needs his/her own privacy and space. Do not make your marriage crowded. If you find your partner in a contemplative mood, leave him/her alone for some time.
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Do not be disagreeable... Try to look presentable before your spouse. Wear fresh, clean clothes and have a well-groomed appearance. Needless to say, the house should also look neat and clean so that both partner love staying at home.
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Be young and energetic... Many neglect their physical appearance. This should not be so. Do some regular exercises to keep yourself physically and mentally fit, enjoy life and cultivate a positive attitude.
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Cherish old friends... Marriage doesnot mean the end of your old friends. Keep in touch with them and introduce them to your spouse. Old friends provide valuable emotional support and prevent you from feeling isolated or depressed.
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Make new friends... Join a club or organization where you can meet people from other professions. Widen your social circle and expand your personal network. Close ties to family and friends help in stengthening a marriage.
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Healthy Criticism... If you must criticize your partner, go in for healthy criticism. Learn to say the positive factors first and then talk about things that trouble you. Be specific - don't generalize. Choose words carefully.
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